An Eye for an Eye

This is part 3 of the "Overcoming Hurt" series of blogs. The purpose of this blog is to help those that are still hurting from past experiences to #keepitmoving. Let's destroy the habit of holding others hostage, from holding yourself hostage...it is out of anger, fear, and confusion that forgiveness eludes us.

We all have heard the saying "An Eye for an Eye" - what harm another gives to you deserves the same. However, to live a life of anger can only be detrimental to your purpose in life. What a shame it would be to go through life hurting so much that forgiveness is not an option. There is a notion that to remain angry gives you total control when in most cases you might find yourself out of control.

To keep from being hurt you might build up walls which is designed to keep out those you might hurt you when in some cases you might adopt habits that creates barriers that will prevent you from engaging in a positive manner with the world around you. One thing that I have had to learn through conflict is to cultivate a generous heart towards those that have hurt me. This does not give an open invitation into my life. However, I can forgive and #keepitmoving.

You see, a revengeful spirit is not of God; personal injury must not be returned in kind – Romans 12:14 states, "Ask God to bless those who persecute you—yes, ask him to bless, not to curse." Romans 12:14, was a reminder while I was going through my divorce after being married for 15 years helped me tremendously. I had to seek a way to pray earnestly for my "then husband" to be blessed rather than remain in hurt in order for my children to reap the benefits for him to have a good life to care so that their father could provide for them. However, this was not an overnight process. It took time but I was eventually better for it and so will you as you go through your own journey of healing. There is truth in setting people free and yourself when "Overcoming Hurt".